Blindsided by divorce

I've been trying to borrow these legal fees with every intention of paying them back. So far, no luck. I'm currently trying to claim VA benefits from my service several years ago. I've been barely able to work, and i have received zero compensation from anywhere. Now, at this vulnerable point in my life, i'm apparently getting divorced, and can't afford the fees. She has full financial backing and support from her family, while all of my immediate family are already gone. I'm truly desperate, and had no idea i'd have to start from scratch at this stage in life.