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In severe severe need of emergency housing for myself and my two daughters under 2 years old.
I am going to avoid putting my name and our location for my young daughters and is safety because I'm sure if he puts his brain together he can figure out where we
Kind of a long post, but I am looking for any helpresources as fast as possible from the community to get back on my feet as soon as possible for my babies. 🙏😔
I just fled to the city my brother lives in, where i do not know anyone or my way around. My parents used to live down here. I had to flee a very volatile domestic violence situation that I had been surviving for the last 3 years. It came down to realizing I was staying so my children had a father, but I needed to leave so they still had a mother. However, on top of the physical, emotional, verbal and the "other one" (i will not be discussing) abuse
There was extreme financial abuse. When we had our two children (both currently under 2y)he convinced me not to go back to work and stay home to care for our kids and he would be the sole provider of the home, in his words " Just until they were school age. And then you can go back to work if you want to." I agreed. He maintained from day one he would support me because I was at home taking care of our kids. And then never allowed me to have a cent time my name. Drained my account, convinced me to use my paid off car as collateral for a loan, purchased new apple watches and phones and anytime I needed anything....toiletries, medicine, BP medications, pads (i had to roll up paper towels) he would not allow me to have any money to get, he would only keep enough gas in the car to get to a gas station across the way so i couldnt leave because he knew i had no money. He has manipulated, emotionally, verbally abused me since our daughters were born. Constantly calling me out of my name even while holding my children. He spent one week where he said my new name was N-word b*tch and would only refer to me by that and if i didnt respond he would get in my face and scream and ask me why I wasnt responding to my name n word btch. He has choked me, threw me into a wall, and broke down the bathroom door when i locked myself inside to hide and dragged me out by the hair threw me to the ground and kicked me in the stomach over and over while i was 2 weeks post c section, punched me in the face because i accidentally knocked a plate out of his hands, and would constantly throw me to the floor, into the wall, grab me by the hair and drag me, and has done it while im pregnant and while im holding the children. Sometimes all I had to do was speak and he would be set off and come after me. And when he spoke at me, i was not allowed to speak back or more chaos ensued. I have just been surviving for 3 years because the thought of him taking my children (his constant threat to me if I left) made me ill considering he didnt even parent them when he was around.
These are just some of which are just TINY examples. It got so violent recently that I had to come up with an escape plan with my kids while he was working to get here where my brother lives , the goal was to relocate to his apartment and start my life all over again, because when I fled, I fled with my babies items and the clothes on my back. I had to leave as quickly as possible because as a woman with 2 little babies i needed to give them what they deserved....a calm loving environment. But on top of the verbal physical and emotional abuse, the extreme financial abuse where he manipulated and convinced me to take out loans in the my name that he now stopped paying to punish me, he has absolutely ruined my credit and stopped paying all payments, canceled his bank card 3 months ago when I left to ensure none of his loans got paid anymore and that has now hurt my ability to obtain any form of credit. I have called every DV hotline I can find, spent hours on hold and on the phone with DCF, the county, adopt a family, several churches (to see if they could help with diapers and formula, had any clothes donations in my size and inquired about any help with getting on my feet.) I called rental assistance and every resource like it for Palm Beach and since I don't have a lease or a driver's license with an address in this county....I don't qualify for ANYTHING. I was able to stay with my brother for a little bit but then his apartment put a notice to vacate on my car and threatened action against my brother (eviction for breaking the lease terms on guests) if I didn't leave. The idea of taking my two daughters under two to a shelter with strangers and they are so young they can't communicate to me if something is wrong or happened and they could wonder over to a stranger while I'm sleeping etc is terrifying. So I have been sleeping in my car so my brother doesn't get in trouble because kids don't matter to the leasing company. So I have had to leave my kids with my brother every night so they are in a safe home and not sleeping in Walmart parking lot with me. My brother tried to even add me to his lease but because of what my ex did to my credit I was denied and told if I got my score up like 40 points I could be approved with a two months rent deposit which was an absurd amount of money. My brother doesn't have that kind of money and I have nothing to my name. Not even a second set of clothes. My ex has taken everything from me. My home, my future, my car is going to get repossessed because he stopped paying the payments on loan he had me take out against my car i worked so hard to pay off, every childhood photo album and image of my deceased parents and possessions that I worked so hard to purchase, he even took off with my cat of 11 years that my daughter loves to get back at me, my ability to even find a home and put a roof over my daughters heads, and now he is threatening to take my kids if he finds us and that i will never see them again, even trying to call dcf and say i cant support them because im homeless. He was an absent parent even when he was home and now he wants to take my newborn and toddler from their mother to hurt her with no intention of caring for them himself. I have been turned down everywhere I go and I am starting to lose hope. I refuse to go back to him. I stayed only as long as i did so my girls had a father, but I left so they'd still have a mother. I need help and i am ashamed to ask for anything from others, but for my kids, id do anything. I have only been here less than a month. If there is anything you can do that could help me get into a place with my girls so I can get back to work, or any resources at all for food or cash assistance (I am waiting on dcf for ebt approval or denial), resources for clothes for an adult female. I could truly use any help. I want to get back on my feet, back to work and in a home as soon as possible. Getting a roof over my kids heads and back to work asap so that I can provide a loving home to them away from the volatile behavior they witnessed (especially now before they're old enough to think men treating women that way is normal) is all I can think and worry about right now. So any help, even a dollar, or sharing to your friends. Its all helpful.
Thank you
Also, if you are aware of any remote positions available please let me know
I managed a call center 11 years prior to be a SAHM. But I am willing to take an entry level position if that means bringing in an income for my girls. Full time or Part time. Anything helps.
Thank you for reading and for any help you can provide so that I can begin to provide a life for my daughters free from violence while they are still young enough not to understand what they witnessed !
