Saving Adriana Grace

Campaign Created by: WILLIAM COUGHLIN

The funds from this campaign will be received by WILLIAM COUGHLIN.

Goal: USD $65,000
Raised: USD $ 45,095

Adriana Grace came into this world on October 26, 2020 in Kingsport Tennessee. She's a beautiful and inquisitive 22 month old, who means the world to her Gigi and Papi. Unfortunately, her parents are completely incapable, if not downright dangerous. Her birth father/donor she was born to is an abusive person, small minded, petty and viscous. He suffers from 'small man syndrome' (4'11-5ft only) and enjoys hurting smaller and weaker people, especially women and children. He's also someone who has previously lost custody of her older sister Kylie, as well as his child from a previous relationship. He has a slew of arrests for Domestic Violence, (8 arrests, one felony conviction) and her Mother, my step-daughter, Emily suffers from extremely well documented mental health issues from the age of 5 until present day, never mind that she's lazy, entitled and incapable of any sort of basic human decency. Needless to say, they should NOT be raising this child.

In October of 2021, Emily called my wife Gretchen and begged for help. BabyDaddy had assaulted her AGAIN, so Gretchen drove to Tennessee and assisted to get her out of ANOTHER Domestic Violence situation stemming from the father beating her AGAIN, and both Adriana and Emily came to live with me and my wife. We had hoped to assist Emily (Adriana's mom) in getting her head straight and becoming a functional, capable adult.

This was, mind you the SECOND Time that Emily had to be taken out of this same exact precarious situation. The first time was almost three years before, with her first born daughter Kylie Rose. This assault ended with him (same BabyDaddy) having a felony conviction for Domestic Violence and Assault. Emily's father Fred assisted her with leaving THAT situation, She fled the BabyDaddy with her Father, my Wife's Ex Husband Fred and began living with him and his new wife. (Gretchen and Fred's marriage BTW was completely and utterly destroyed by Emily and her horrible, unconscionable behavior) Eventually, due to her inability to do the 'right thing' she was arrested for theft while working at WalMart, and then she abandoned Kylie, and went back to the BabyDaddy in Tennessee. Subsequently, her other Grandpapa Fred and his new wife have taken Kylie in, gotten full permanent custody and are raising her with Gretchen and Me as co-parents, as at the time, Gretchen and I were not married.

Emily is the epitome of a entitled Millennial, and unfortunately this is reflected in her inability to make good judgement calls vis-a-vis raising her daughter. She is wholly incapable of maintaining a job, an apartment, nor paying her bills. To her it's "YOLO" 24-7 and damn whatever consequences. She seems to view her daughter as a 'prop' for her social media, and has no clue as to what TRUE motherhood involves. I for one REFUSE to allow Adriana to be caught up as collateral damage.

As time progressed, and due to her mental health, and her near-constant bad decision making, she reverted to form, at which point I was forced to have her evicted from my home, as she had totaled my truck. After the accident, rather than doing the right thing, she fled causing her to be charged with a misdemeanor hit and run, (6 months probation) and showed zero remorse. Coupled with having been fired/quit MULTIPLE Jobs while living with us, I was finally done with her HORRIBLE attitude and inherent laziness. At this time, she left Adriana in our custody and care, on a verbal basis as her Grandparents live in a deed restricted "no kids" community.

This worked for a period of time, up to a visitation that went tragically wrong. On 26 July, Emily went crazy... no rhyme, nor reason. It's only what I can consider a mental breakdown, and assaulted both her mother and Grandmother, who had taken her in when I evicted her. Adriana was on a weekend visit when this happened, and my wife Gretchen was in the process of picking up Adriana when everything went wrong. Long story short, my wife, in defense of her 82 year old mother, was arrested for assault and battery for beating Emily with a police baton. The police declined at the time to properly investigate the issue as to them, it was an open-and-shut case. However, as of this writing, her (Gretchen's) lawyer is in the process of making a motion to dismiss the case. It seems the State Prosecutor has not filed charges as of yet, and from what we understand is dis-inclined to do so, as information has come to light that Emily was the aggressor.

After this incident, again Emily still allowed me to take care of Adriana, as she was now forced to live in a Battered Woman's Homeless Shelter, as she had burned the final bridge with her family. She literally had -nothing- and since we had been providing a safe and comfortable home for Adriana, it was in Adriana's best interest for the verbal deal to keep going. However, what I didn't know was during this entire time though, it seems that she was STILL in contact with the BabyDaddy. On Wednesday 27 July, the Hillsborough County Sherriff's Deputies showed up at my door at 10:30pm demanding I turn Adriana over to her mother. As we only had a verbal agreement, I acquiesced. She was pulled screaming "Papi! Papi!" from my arms.

The next morning, 4 August Gretchen and I immediately filed paperwork for custody, as we felt that Adriana was in potential danger. We then on August 5th had to take the paperwork to the county Sherriff where she was residing (Lake County). We then over the weekend (Late Saturday afternoon, August 6th) from friends who were and are watching the situation, were informed that Emily YET AGAIN returned to the BabyDaddy in Tennessee (anyone seeing a pattern here?)

We raced to Kingsport Tennessee on Sunday.

As Hillsborough County felt that Adriana was NOT in 'operational immediate danger' they did a standard '20 days to respond' summons. Knowing full well that IF she had returned to the BabyDaddy, then my Granbaby was in absolute danger. On Monday Morning we got an emergency Custody Order that placed her back in our custody that day. When we recovered her, with the assistance of Kingsport PD, she was dirty, hungry and tired. She also, in the 4 days that she had been with them, was showing signs of being injured and having nightmares. Where before she was 'normal cuddly' she became absolutely clingy. She also had issues with self harm, where when we'd change a diaper, if she squirmed and we admonished her for squirming, she's start crying hysterically, pulling her hair and hitting herself. My neighbor who is a child speech pathologist with a minor in Child Psyche, said that's a sign that she was hurt/abused when being changed, as she hurts herself, rather than letting/having someone else do it to her. She also had bruising on her ankles, from what I can only guess is from her being violently held when putting the diaper on her. 

Now, when the 'incident' happened of Gretchen 'tuning up' Emily with the baton, the Department of Children's Services opened a case against us, or leastways an investigation as to IF Adriana was safe with us. The results of that case are a HUGE part of why the States Attorneys office is dis-inclined to file charges, as the overwhelming result from this is "We're investigating the wrong mother." This investigation spanned 4 counties, and 4 different investigators, and every single one stated the best place for Adriana is with us. So much so, that the Lead Investigator has stated she will testify in court, both here and in Tennessee on our behalf as to the absolute inability for Emily to be a mother. 

There is a few other things we discovered.
One of which during the initial hearing, Emily's on-the-spot urinalysis came back with trace elements of Marijuana and PCP. The Judge however said, essentially "Nah... it's only trace elements, so we'll call that a negative." 

Say What?

Yeah. THIS is the 'stuff' we're facing. I was told flat-out by the Guardian Ad Litem that we need a lawyer, hence why I'm here. I normally NEVER do things like this, but I've already sold what I can sell, and am having trouble with getting equity out of the house (blame the subprime mortgage disaster on this one here... too many banks and too many things to track down in a timely manner to get what I need), and I'm still coming up short. I need $7500+ to make sure I can do what needs to be done. If I get more, it'll be a pad to make sure we settle this once and for all.

Adriana, to them, is a 'prize'... a toy to be won, and once won, will be discarded and/or ignored, if not mistreated and/or hurt/killed during one of her BabyDaddys incomprehensible ragefests. In fact, case in point, the BabyDaddy sent me a mocking text message talking about how he 'won'... he just doesn't get it. This isn't a game. There are no winners.

To us, she's a precious and precocious lil goober who makes me smile, and that I love to love. 
Gretchen is brokenhearted at this whole thing. 

It's been a nightmare that won't end until we get her back to the safety of our family and house.

Please if you can assist Please do so. If you can't afford to donate, then please pray for us... hard.

We need all the help we can get.

Many Thanks

Billy, Gretchen and Adriana

UPDATES

Update #13 Thanksgiving
November 24, 2022
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Thanksgiving... Missing Addy, but knowing the rest of them will be with us makes a world of difference.  I'm sorry to have fallen behind on the updates, but we've been busy-busy.  The "judge" has shot down any and all visitation, leastways court-ordered until the next bloody court date in January...  Told us that it's up to the Cryptkeeper to decide IF we can see her... whom I've been trying talk to... begging actually, but to no avail.

I'll be curious when WE get her if they instantly set up some sort of mandatory Visitation where we have to let THEM see her.  IF he pulls that, well, I got some 'ammo in the mag' still that's waiting to be used.  Lawfare works both ways...
However, the point for today's update is I/We have so much to be thankful for.

Y'all in particular.  

Every. Single. One. of. You.

We've been blessed with your thoughts, prayers and support, both spiritual, as well as financially.  Word we got from the AFA is that the 'other side?'  They're in a bit of a panic that we relocated to Tennessee.  THAT was not in the playbook, and it 'upends the table'.  Because of y'all and your assistance, the light is at the end of the tunnel.

You have Gretchen and My undying gratitude.
Thank you.

Adriana is going to learn alllll about the goodness that has happened here, when a bunch of people came together to help out a broken old Soldier and his Wife save her from an unimaginable life.  It's the very least we can do.  She'll hopefully grow up beleiving in the inherent Good and Righteousness of people, and that she needs to help others out as she grows... leastways that's what I'm going to teach her.

It's my 53rd Birthday today.
Another year on this side of the dirt.
If I could have one wish come true, it's that I get my Granbebe back 
Sooner rather than later.

Until the next Update, you have our thanks and love

Billy Gretchen and Adriana.

Update #12 Never Ending ****ery
November 15, 2022
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Greetings everyone.  Sorry for the delay on an Update.  It's been a flat-out clusterhump of a time.  I'm trying to watch the language as it's a Christian Website.  We had court this past Thursday, which was all of like oh... say 10 minutes of being called in, only to be told that the trial? meeting? episode? was being reset again 'cos Fatnstupid's Lawyer (who apparently is pregnant) is having serious health issues and couldn't be there.

This after again paying to have the otherGran, Papa, (I'm Papi) fly in.  God love him for the effort but it's the second time we've been screwed by the state.  Not sure if he's going to come back, 'cos again they screwed us by pushing it back to January.

OK... Lots of things can happen between now and then

In the meantime, because of everyone's support we relocated to Tennessee.  Got a small efficiency apartment.  Sapper is taking care of the Casa in Florida while we establish residency.  Which, By the way the security of which was completely compromised by Fatnstupid's lawyer's legal aid.  Now F-Stick the babydaddy knows where we live.  I've taken to ensuring the security of the Area of Operations, as I'm more than happy to give him a 'welcome' if'n he's that stupid (he is).

Visitation is also up in the air until our new AFA files a motion as the Judge wouldn't order it on the day we were there... guess he was wanting to leave early... OK, got it.

So, again , our love and thanks, we couldn't keep this fight up without your support.

Billy Gretchen and Adriana

Update #10 More Determined Than Ever
November 5, 2022
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Morning Everyone.
Soooooo oh-dark late last night I get a ping from my email.  Friday night I usually have the fon shut off as I don't want to hear from anyone, especially after the move on Thursday.  We signed the lease and put some donated furniture in, and the next phase is me heading back to the Casa in Florida to get the bed(s) toys and other necessary needs to live for a year for us and Adriana.

Curiosity overwhelmed and it turned out to be pictures sent by Fatnstupid (the Step-Slore) of Addy, at a Halloween "party" of some form.  Probably one of those church "Trunk or Treat" things that've become so popular.

One of the pics is below.  I still can't wrangle this website very well, despite earlier being able to insert pics in here in the text block (any advice on 'how to' PM my email at BCE101st@Protonmail.com)  Thing of it is, I know my Addy.  That ain't a "happy" picture.  That looks to me like a "proof of life photo" minus the newspaper for a date.  She looks utterly miserable, and the other picture has her looking off to the side like someone is yelling at her to either sit still or to smile.  She's not happy

Which means I'm savagely upset.

I cannot WAIT to see the look(s) on their scumitudinal faces when they find out I'm local-local.  They've been really sh*tty to us because they felt 'safe' because a 700 mile one way trip is a hell of a distance to serve up a royal asswhuppin'.
Guess What Buttercup?
And the first one don't count as close.
Only Horseshoes, Hand Grenades and Nukular Weapons come into play for the meaning of 'close'.

The Term the DotMil utilizes when something like Artillery or Mortar rounds from your own folk are dropping on you is called DANGER CLOSE

When that gets yelled out, it means to make-small-be-small and hope and pray for the best.
I am now 'Danger Close'
They best be on their best behavior.

Again, Gretchen sends her love and unending gratitude.  We couldn't do this without everyones support.  We've broken the halfway marker (much to my horror actually) in that I never expected this to cost so much.  My personal thanks to Kenny, AKA Wirecutter over at Knuckledraggin' for opening my eyes to the realities of the expenses behind the scam that is fambly courts.  I also thank all of you for your support and prayers, and every bit of personal support that some have you have offered, from rest-stops to meals on the road for Face-2-Face Meatspace meetings.  This whole nightmare has had a silver lining, in that it's shown that there are a LOT moar decent people than I had originally thought in my jaded outlook.
With Much Love and Respect and Awed Thanks
Billy, Gretchen and Lil Addy

Update #10 More Determined Than Ever
November 5, 2022
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Morning Everyone.
Soooooo oh-dark late last night I get a ping from my email.  Friday night I usually have the fon shut off as I don't want to hear from anyone, especially after the move on Thursday.  We signed the lease and put some donated furniture in, and the next phase is me heading back to the Casa in Florida to get the bed(s) toys and other necessary needs to live for a year for us and Adriana.

Curiosity overwhelmed and it turned out to be pictures sent by Fatnstupid (the Step-Slore) of Addy, at a Halloween "party" of some form.  Probably one of those church "Trunk or Treat" things that've become so popular.

One of the pics is below.  I still can't wrangle this website very well, despite earlier being able to insert pics in here in the text block (any advice on 'how to' PM my email at BCE101st@Protonmail.com)  Thing of it is, I know my Addy.  That ain't a "happy" picture.  That looks to me like a "proof of life photo" minus the newspaper for a date.  She looks utterly miserable, and the other picture has her looking off to the side like someone is yelling at her to either sit still or to smile.  She's not happy

Which means I'm savagely upset.

I cannot WAIT to see the look(s) on their scumitudinal faces when they find out I'm local-local.  They've been really sh*tty to us because they felt 'safe' because a 700 mile one way trip is a hell of a distance to serve up a royal asswhuppin'.
Guess What Buttercup?
And the first one don't count as close.
Only Horseshoes, Hand Grenades and Nukular Weapons come into play for the meaning of 'close'.

The Term the DotMil utilizes when something like Artillery or Mortar rounds from your own folk are dropping on you is called DANGER CLOSE

When that gets yelled out, it means to make-small-be-small and hope and pray for the best.
I am now 'Danger Close'
They best be on their best behavior.

Again, Gretchen sends her love and unending gratitude.  We couldn't do this without everyones support.  We've broken the halfway marker (much to my horror actually) in that I never expected this to cost so much.  My personal thanks to Kenny, AKA Wirecutter over at Knuckledraggin' for opening my eyes to the realities of the expenses behind the scam that is fambly courts.  I also thank all of you for your support and prayers, and every bit of personal support that some have you have offered, from rest-stops to meals on the road for Face-2-Face Meatspace meetings.  This whole nightmare has had a silver lining, in that it's shown that there are a LOT moar decent people than I had originally thought in my jaded outlook.
With Much Love and Respect and Awed Thanks
Billy, Gretchen and Lil Addy

Update #9 The Birthday
October 30, 2022
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My lil love.
I missed her.
How much I didn't realize til yesterday.
Being away, I've had to bury my feelings for her, lest I go insane(r).
We got the the 'party' at a park, with the Hillbilly Fam in attendance -again.-  She saw us, and after a second or two, her lil brain kicked in and she ran over to us, and grabbed onto Gretchen as hard as she could.  Choked her (Gretchen) up hard.  Then, she started hugging on me.
Combat Infantrymen don't cry.
Took some effort let me tell ya.

Then as the 'party' progressed, Addy?  AGAIN she grabbed me, and this time kept calling me 'Daddy' and ran off to the horizon AGAIN.  We brought our family friend, Miss Daisy along to have a witness.  86 years spry and takes no crap off of no one.  SHe's met Addy before this unpleasantness and even she saw her lack of words and sentences.  The only clear word she had was "Daddy".

Seems they taught her to call Worthless that, but when I showed up, she had other plans and -I'm- now Daddy.  >Le Sigh<  She not once referred to him as that while we were there, sooooo make of it what you will.  Saying goodbye this time was a teeny bit easier.  She's still not talking the ways she used to be, but I got her alone for quite a bit, as did Wifey and she was quick to pick up the words again.  It's obvious that she's not getting the learning and language work she should.  I explained to her that I was still there, and that I was going to rescue her, come hell or high water.

And the picture?  That's as close to a smile as I could get out of her.  When it was just her n me, she was telling me -something-... a full on litany of complaints I reckon.  I behaved meself, Gretchen was tranquilized per orders and Miss Daisy kept a short leash on bher, as well as keeping the rest of the Hillbilly Morons Guessing as to just who she was.

We gave her her gifts, and played with her quite a bit.  She didn't smile -at all- though... where she's been in the past?  Nothing like the serious lil girl she is now.  Breaks my heart.  She DID smile at one point however... that was when Gretchen and I did a 'group hug and kiss'... to explain:

When Gretchen and I first got her, one night I picked her up to go and take her to bed.  Gretchen came over and hugged on both of us, me holding Addy, and Gretchen holding the two of us.  Gretch gave me a big smile and a very nice wifely kiss... firm and loving.
Addy looked absolutely stunned.  
Like shocked.
We realized she'd probably never seen any affection between her bio-rents.
So we made it a regular thing to just randomly hold, hug and kiss each other, something she really loved doing.  And it's readily apparent she missed that, as we did it yesterday, and she leaned in, wrapped an arm around the two of us and went "awwwwww!" and kissed and hugged us both.  She obviously missed this.  So we got a ways to go, and at least she's remembering the good stuff with us, and obviously wants to come back to us desperately.

Which brings me to the new plan.
AFA (Aggressive Female Lawyer) said we need to get out from under the current Judge's court.  Seems he's the only Juvenile judge in the county.  So, now the plan?  So, while keeping some opinions and full facts out of this update here, part of the reason to push for more support is I'm moving to Tennessee to get her back.  Gonna cut the bravo sierra of the Judge playing the "Oh you live too far away!" to give US custody.  By moving into an Apartment locally for a spell (a year or two at least) we get her back, and it'll throw a wrench in the works for everyone.  It'll absolutely cut any and all objections to us filing for her now out from underneath them.  My job has already OK'd me to relocate.  Got me a hunch the bio-rent's are going to purely melt down when they hear about this.

If I'm lucky, he'll do something stupid as he's known to do.  Like show up and threaten us again as he's done oh so many times in the past... The Babydaddy ain't known for his self-control or brains.  Fatnstupid, the mom?  She's done as far as the state is concerned.  Terminated her parental rights... between 4 failed drug tests, and her starting an OnlyFans page?  Yeah... Buhbye... don't let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya.
WHEN he shows up and gets stupid?  it'll make life easier if'n Gretchen is the sole surviving blood kin Aye?

There's other parts in this that ARE classified, but I wanted to explain the push, as getting established is going to be a stone pain in the ass.  Once I'm here?  I'll be able to keep it up... it's that initial First, Last, Security Deposit and Utility Startup that's the mother.  That and outfitting local 'stuff' from the Goodwill to start with.  This was the AFA's idea... like I said, out-of-the-box thinker... I really dig her.  SAo, any and all help again, is gratefully appreciated.

I think this might be the 'home stretch' play.
I got about 9 days to get established in Tennessee.  With y'alls assistance, it'll happen.
Again, with much love and thanks to you all.
Billy Gretchen and Adriana

Update #8 On The Road Again
October 22, 2022
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Greetings and Salutations Y'all
Currently in North Carolina on the side of a mountain, which I'm starting to call "The Country Redoubt"... It's a 2 hour drive to Tennessee, but as we're trying to keep the fund from completely getting leveled, we're staying with a dear friend of Gretchen.  She's an -awesome- old school North Carolina native, set in her ways at 86 years old and tough as all git out.  Saves us the $125 a night for a hotel in the Area of Operation, and the gas is cheaper than the hotel, plus the leaves are changing and maaaaan!

It's cold

I've been in Florida tooooo long.  This's the first Fall Weather I've seen (leaves changing and all) since... hmmn... no Joke, 2003.  19 years +/- since I've been this far North at this time of year.  I mean I -have- been up North, but always in the summer months.  31 degrees this AM and I brought the snuggies, to include my Afghani Pakol... that soft wool round-topped hat that you see all the Afghani Males running around in.  Say what you will, but that sucker is comfy and warm.  Traps the heat and keeps the carcass warm.

Plus being this close to Asheville, It makes a 'statement' to the hippies there I suppose... leastways from the nods and "Cool hat bro! Where'd ya get it?"  WHAT exactly that statement is is open to question...  They seem to recoil when I tell 'em I got it IN Affy during my tour there.

So, Mission Intent on this is a meeting to get the case paperwork to the New Lawyer, AFA.  Old lawyer has NOT transferred the case files to her, and I'm somewhat annoyed.  We also are going to be doing a visitation, as it's Adriana's B-Day on Sunday.  I'm sure we wouldn't be allowed to participate in such festivities, not that I want to be around them, as I'm still trying to get over the last visitation.  To insure everything is 'on the record' we're giving the B-Day Presents and a slew of clothing (that she's soon to outgrow) to the Crypt Keeper via the DCS Caseworker so that A) It's on record and B) They won't be able to just shitcan everything, leastways not right off the bat.

The DCS Casework is a 20 Year Army Vet, so I've done a 'patch rub' and sort of brought him around to our side a bit.  Not for nothing he'd heard of Big Country during his time in Iraq, as I was pretty well known in some circles.  He's agreed to deliver all the goodies and to do a follow up.  It's all I can ask for Aye?

But yep, only thing missing from this piece of paradise is Our Addy.
Hopefully sooner, rather than later, we'll be getting her back.
Gretchen and I again thank everyone for all the support and prayers. 

Please if you can, keep it up and spread the word as we're still not out of the fight.
Every little bit helps.
More Later, with Blessings to All
Billy, Gretchen, and Adriana Grace

Update #7 Sorry For the Delay/Changeup
October 15, 2022
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Greetings everyone.  I was asked to remove my last update by the other Grans, as they didn't want to publicize Gran #1.  I did so without asking, and I'm sorry for the mistake.  Anyways, we've been busy busy with our next couple of moves.  We had -planned- on making a trip up there in the next week or so as it's very close to Adriana's second birthday.

Her first was a classic.

She wasn't quite sure as to what was going on and she was hesitant what with the noise, the candles and the singing...  "Who are these weirdos and why are they all singing?  Why is that cake on fire!?!  Why are they putting it in front of me???"  Her face says it all in the pic.

She did 'get it' once she got a first hand bite of the sugar bomb we placed in front of her, and after that it was off to the sugar-rush-races, with cake being everywhere, especially all over her as you can see...

I swear we were picking pieces of it out of her ears days later...

So, this time, we called ahead and asked if we could have an overnight for her B-Day...
The Crypt Keeper not only said "No!" but hurled some of the foulest invective I've every heard coming from an elderly person... this after 30+/- years around Professional Soldiers who use obscenities as Monet would use oil paint... true artistes in their chosen form... Those guys got nuthin' on the Crypt Keeper...

Jes' Sayin'
Killer is, there's a court order ordering us to be allowed visitations within reason.
Have to see what comes of that particular issue.  As it is, we've decided to switch horses now because Gretchen felt a female lawyer would do better than the one we have now.  "Aggressive Female Attorney".  Means another huge out-of-pocket but if this time it works, it works.  We need to catch a break here on this, and the consults we've had have given me the slightest bit more hope than I had before.  See what AFA does with this first challenge as I'd -really- like to see her for B-Day #2.

And on that note, I can't thank you all enough.  I also need to single out a fellow Blogger, one who's kind of notorious for being a bit of a grouch, but even Aesop gave a pretty hefty donation for which I'm grateful... Thanks Bro, Way cool and Semper Fi.  Speaking of which:

My blog got nuked recently for 'badthink' and 'wrongspeak' but I'm working with Divemedic in getting back up and running hopefully sooner rather than later.  If needs be, you can go to my BFF Mike Hendrix's house at coldfury.com where I occasionally and probably will start throwing some of my own invective shortly.

Otherwise my continued thanks for every. single. one of you who've offered prayers, donations and positive energy in this fight.  It ain't over til it's over.

With all our thanks
Billy Gretchen and Adriana Grace
BCE

Update #6
October 2, 2022
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https://www.daybydaycartoon.com/comic/saving-grace/

I Cried

Every. Single. Time.

Especially the last panel...


Update #5
September 21, 2022
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September 21
Lots of moving parts.  Looking at Relocating to Tennessee as the CPS folks sent us word that even IF they find the Guardian (the 76 Year Old Walking Dead Great Grandmother...think 'Crypt Keeper' to get an idea of how messed up she is) unable to care for Adriana, they'll then put her in foster care rather than let her come here to Florida where she's lived and had a great and fulfilling life!!!!

It's all about the $$$ for the State.
Corruptocrats everywhere
So, logic sez to me at least, a Relocation (however long/or...very very short it is) as long as I get her in our possession, we can do what we need to insure her safety and development.  Speaking of which

We're having a speech pathologist fly in to TN to test Addy.  Our neighbor, who interacted with her (the baby) on the daily is a professional Language Development/Speech Pathologist by trade in all of Hillsborough County's schools. Because she already has a 'baseline' she's agreed to professionally evaluate Addy for the fact she's now illiterate and regressed.  Use that as another wedge issue.

Again, my thanks for all of the help.
Chris Muir from "Day By Day" has agreed to try and assist... so we got that going for us now as well.
More Later 

BCE

Billy


Update #4
September 17, 2022
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September 17th
Well, we still have to fight.  Tennessee is bound and determined to keep her in the clutches of these morons.  The worst part is again they pulled a fast one.  BOTH parents admitted to being incompetent, and relinquished custody to the state.  NOW the state wants to keep her in the possession of the 76 Year Old Great-Grandmother.
What.
The.
(Expletive Deleted, starts with "F")
The old ginch can't walk, can't drive, and wears depends.
Who's changing Who's diaper!!!???!!!

Well, we got proof of life

A Visitation.  30 minutes.  Heartbreaking.  She's regressed severely.  Lost ALL of her words.
At one point she grabbed my finger and pulled a "Jenny" (like from Forrest Gump) and dragged me/pulled me running out into a field to get away from them.  I had to restrain Myself.  When I found meself eyeballing my battle rig in the truck (M-4 and full rig, combat load of M855) I knew we had to leave right now as I started having -bad thoughts-
So it was as I said a good day, she remembered us, and still wants to be with us.  She freaked and threw a fit when we left.  I had to cram the white hot rage deep down, if only for her sake.  I leave it in the hands of the Lord.  We thank you for all the support as we're trying desperately to do this the right way.  Gretchen and I are at a loss for words, and Adriana is going to eventually know how many and how much love she's deserving of and support that was given to her.  Again, from the blackened chunk of what used to be my heart, I thank you all.
BCE

Billy

Update #3
September 11, 2022
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Sorry for being remiss in updates, except we -have- been busy as all get out getting prepped and ready to do battle.  We're now in 'the Belly of the Beast', which is unfortunate that I feel this way as it's absolutely gorgeous country.  

We've done everything possible that we can.  People lined up, witnesses, lawyers and whatnot

Not a bit of it could have happened with out y'all, your thoughts prayers and donations.

Y'all have stunned me and renewed my faith in people.
Hopefully this week goes well, and I'll relay what I can when I can.  There's soooo many many moving pieces-parts.  The drive here was...-eventful- but safely completed.  Had a touching moment during the drive when one of the kind folks from GiveSendGo called us randomly out-of-the-blue... at first had had a sinking feeling that -something- had gone sideways... instead I was touched and pleased that she had read of our and Addy's plight, and wanted to pray with Gretchen and myself while we were hustling up here...

Brought a bit o'dust to mine eye I think.
Hopefully, the Righteous will prevail.
With undying Thanks I Remain, The I.R. BCE

Billy, Gretchen (and soon) Adriana

Update #2
August 23, 2022
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OK Gang... the latest of stuff I -can- poast.

First off, my undying gratitude to everyone who's helped so far.  We got a Lawyer, who appears to be a real shark.  I'm hopeful.  I can't go into some aspects of what we're dealing with, but as such, when I get the green light to dump things, I will, either here or at my online 'house.'  The last update I had was HERE

Needless to say, both Gretchen and I are overwhelmed by the generosity shown.   I'll update us as we go, but needless to say, it's ugly, but now, due to you all, we've started getting the pieces in place to fight back properly.

It's pretty much a law-fight at this point, otherwise the fundraiser would be "The Big Country Bail Fund"

Hopefully it doesn't come to that.

Again, my thanks and we'll go from there.
Big Country
Billy

Update #1 Oh. My. God...
August 21, 2022
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12:09am 8-21  Wifey and I just got back to the Casa after a long, rather uneventful run from North Carolina.  Should have taken about 8-9 hours, but due to multiple accidents, it took us a minute to get here.  We were 'comms dark' for a large portion of the trip, as cell service in and around the mountains and what was spotty at best.  I'm also very superstitious so I told her "Don't look, don't check, we'll see what's up when we get home..." I was afraid looking at it might queer it or something...

She's in the bedroom now getting herself back together.  Y'all... I just dunno what to say.  She's crying, and me, I'm I dunno what... I'm stunned/amazed/grateful... Unreal... this support...  especially in light that I've gotten a LOT of DMs telling me the $7500 goal was too low.  Now, I'm just oh so like overwhelmed by y'all.  Seems that I didn't (and I didn't) factor in a LOT of 'other expenses'... as a Wise Old Soldier told me "You're looking at least 7500 bucks in attorney fees alone, then there's traveling expenses for every f****** court appearance and we're talking gas, food, lodging, lost wages, then there's doctor's visits for the baby once you get her back, new clothing for her, the list goes on and on and that's just the shit my dumb cracker ass can think of right off the top of my head."

Y'all have almost made it a moot point.

For that, I thank you, and will keep every. single. one. of. you. in the loop.  I'm going to make a list of the donors, and send out some thanks individually, as opposed to using the standard template.  Might take a while, but I have the emails that the donations came from, if not the names.

Again, my 'umblest thanks, and the next Poast I throw up I'll have some other interesting commentary as some of the messages I've gotten gave me pause to think...

Much Love, Billy

AKA Big Country Expat

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