Last summer our son Angelo got married... and this summer (June 2nd) our son Carman will be married! It is an exciting time of our lives. Very shortly after Carman's wedding, Alex should have the required documents to be able to begin the U.S. Embassy process to come home to us. As of today, May 7th, 30% of our needed funds have been given/raised. The slow down in Alex's adoption (due to a changed court venue) has bought us some extra time to raise funds, but that time is also ticking down. We have more fundraisers planned, so please pray for me to be able to work steadily on them! This past week a garage sale benefit was organized by friends and we barely had to lift a finger. It is so nice to have friends who care and are willing to come alongside, as so many of you have. We feel so loved and completely supported! Thank you for that love. And thank you for continuing to pray and share our need.
I shared our "why" on Facebook back in 2015. It is still true today.
Why We Adopt
July 16, 2015
For many people, adoption is about growing a family. Perhaps they have dealt with infertility or have other reasons to pursue adoption of children.
For me, it was never about growing our family. In fact, it was precisely because we HAD been blessed with wonderful children. We felt complete and lacking nothing! Our family was grown -- and nearly grown up -- and everything was right with our world.
Our decision to adopt was built from a pre-marriage discussion 29 years ago. Jim and I always just knew we'd adopt someday, but Jim was settled it would most likely be after we had mostly raised biological children.
Then in 2013, after 26 years of marriage, we knew the time had come. We knew we were "settled" and that we had so much more love to give.
Our adoption "because" became our life. We had an abundant, unending supply of love to share because God was continually filling us to overflowing with HIS love. It was never about money or space -- it was about "if OUR child is out there waiting for us -- we need to give God permission to lead us to him or her".
Now we have realized it has always been about the children. They simply are WORTH IT. Before we knew our new sons, we loved them. Now our love has grown into precious relationships and our lives have been changed at least as much as theirs have. What an amazing opportunity to love -- AND BE LOVED -- that can be so dismissed by the world.
I cringe when someone tells me "these kids are so lucky to have you". Well, yes -- I AM a pretty awesome mom -- but no. It is Jim and I who praise God every day for these awesome kids we now call our own. We just sit here dumbfounded sometimes that we might have missed this calling. This amazing rollercoaster of privilege to parent someone else's natural born children. This chance to show them how precious and dear to God they really are.
My heart is constantly bursting with love for ALL my boys. I love how our biological "first" family have embraced their new brothers. I was adopted as a baby and now we have our own adopted "babies" -- yes, I tell them constantly they are my babies! I tell them how I wish I could have been there in the beginning for them.
God's heart is for the orphan. God's heart is for those like us who are reading this to experience what we have. A total surprise in our "old age". Good work for us to do... and miracles to behold. Each of our new sons is a miracle in the making. God's amazing redemptive power in full color.
Why do we adopt?
Because every child deserves a family ... all over the world ... and our children are WORTH what it takes to do it.