If you don’t know me, the short version is that I separated from my husband when my son was 5 months old, when his addiction and lies started coming out. I tried to work things out, but he kept choosing lies and infidelity, and eventually left us for good 2 weeks after my cancer surgery.
Because I have functioned on an average of 3 hours of sleep a night for the last 3 years, my health declined rapidly, and I’m battling autoimmune disease, narcolepsy, PCOS, chronic pain, and still trying to recover from cancer and balance my thyroid after having it removed.
We live in a camper, since housing isn’t affordable for us yet, with our high expenses. It is 20 years old and needs more repairs than I’ve been able to do. I’ve also had to modify it to be livable for a special needs toddler.
My son is autistic and severely delayed. He only sleeps 8-10 hours a night, no nap. Meltdowns last an hour or more (they used to be 3+ hours). He throws things, breaks things, & hits and kicks during an episode. He is also nonverbal. He is 3, but the size of a 5 year old, and doesn’t understand the concept of potty training, so he’s still in diapers. He has no sense of danger, & cannot understand or follow instructions, so I have to be on him every minute, because he will jet out into traffic or pull something heavy down on himself. He gets up while I’m still asleep and gets into things and destroys stuff, and I’m running out of places to hide unsafe items. I am trying to figure out solutions to keep him safe, but it takes time & money.
We finally got DDD services but until I can get the final approval and scheduling, I’ve been racking up even more debt just trying to pay for a few hours of help.
I’m so close to getting over the hump, but I am drowning, so I’ve finally resolved to accept any help offered. ❤️
If anyone feels led to donate, these are the current expenses that are stretching me far above & beyond my income:
$2000 left to divorce lawyer. (Already paid $4000)
$400 for tires (mine are balding)
$2000 in car repairs (I have to keep it due to the new car shortage, so now I have to pay for all the repairs the ex neglected, in addition to the hefty car payments he left me with. 🤦🏻♀️)
$120 a week in childcare while I wait for final approval
$350 for bathroom fan and cover replacement (20 years old, seals won’t hold through monsoons)
The trailer also needs a new AC, which will be about $2000, but I’m desperately trying to limp it along. It gets extremely hot in the living area, and currently isn’t even cooling down at night.
Another problem is that I can’t cook while the AC is running, and it’s not an option to turn it off for 30 minutes when it already gets too hot inside. So I’m looking into getting a $1000-1500 portable power bank/generator that can run my instant pot or air fryer (or maybe an induction burner) a couple times a day, and then trickle recharge at night.
Medical not covered by insurance:
$800 pathology from my surgery
$2000-3000 in labwork
$400/month for the new IV medication treatments for my inflammation and autoimmune disease
I’m already on payment plans for the $10k in debt, $19k hospital bill from Gidz, and $58 hospital bill from my cancer surgery that my ex left me with. As you can imagine, these alone stretch me financially, in addition to my other budgeted medical expenses not listed.
I am trying to fight the guilt in accepting help, but I’m very grateful for anything anyone is able/willing to give.
For those who want to, but are unable, I SO understand, and I ask for your continued prayers. We’re almost there, I can feel it, but I’m trying to get through this last hump.
Thank you all for your support! ❤️