On Wednesday, August 25th around 9pm Eliana and her boyfriend were driving home when a drunk driver - driving the wrong way on I-76 - hit their car, head on, at highway speeds. It took the fire department with the jaw's of life 20 minutes to free her from the car. She was rushed to the hospital and will need to undergo sergery. It was a very serious accident.
Eliana and her family are some of the nicest, most giving people I have ever met. Eliana is smart, caring, and wise beyond her years and did not deserve this.
It is my hope that we can help Eliana and her family with whatever medical bills and recovery this surely will bring. They are the type of people who just show up and help when people are in need.
All funds will go directly to Eliana and her family to help pay for medial costs.
Update #6 October 2, 2021
I know it has been a long time but I wanted to give an update to how things are going.
Eliana is doing really well. We had a really rough couple of weeks after she first came home. Eliana, Judah and I all caught Covid along with my parents, Jessica's mom and Jessica's brother and sister-in-law. Eliana handeled it the best out of all of us, she was pretty week for two weeks and slept a lot but other than that and some aches and pains she has had no major issues. We had to wait an extra four days to get her in for a doctors appointment to remove staples and stitches. They also did X-rays and everything came back as expected and she is healing up as expected. They are still not allowing her to put weight on her right leg due to her pelvis fractures. She is starting PT next week to help get her range of motion with her leg back. At this point she can only slightly bend and straighten her knee. Thank you everyone for all of your help and support as she still has a long road ahead of healing before she can get back to normal.
Home September 4, 2021
I just wanted to let you know that we have been home for most of the week and things are going pretty good. Eliana is handling things really well and she is super strong and courageous. She inspires me. We have taken her outside a few times and she loves that. We are trying to get her outside at least once a day, I'm a little controlling when it comes to pushing her wheelchair so I will have to work on that. Thanks for everything you have all been doing.
Yum zue yaavo September 1, 2021
Today was a pretty good day for Eliana. She is still in pretty rough shape though. She slept a lot and barely ate but she was able to go to the bathroom several times with minimal help. She did well with her occupational therapy but I have to build a ramp for her to get in the house and install some grab bars for her in the bathroom and get her some equipment to make life easier and safer for her in our home.
She is still on oxygen and they are still pumping her with fluids. So there are good and bad things but that’s how life is right? Good things come and go and bad things come and go. It reminds me of a Jewish legend about King Solomon: he asked his wise men to make him something to keep him from being too sad when things were bad and too happy when things were good. So they made him a ring that had the words “Yum zue yaavo” engraved on it. They told him when things are going really well, stop and look at your ring, and when things are going really bad, stop and look at your ring. In English it translates to
this too shall pass.
“Consider the work of God: For who can make straight what he has bent? In times of prosperity be joyful, but in times of adversity consider this: God has made one as well as the other, so that no one can discover what the future holds.”
Ecclesiastes 7:13-14 NET
So while this situation is terrible, I will choose to hold on to the good and let go of the bad while not letting either overwhelm me.
Helpless? August 29, 2021
I forgot that on Wednesday when I was driving Eliana’s car that her dancing flamingo broke its leg and fell over. I went home today to see my other kids, check on the house and grab some more clothes for Jess and I. I spent a little time with each of the kids answering questions and hearing about what they have been up to. My 11 year Gasper old, wants to be an EMT, so I had him go out to Ellie’s car and fix her flamingos leg.
One of the hardest things for me is feeling so helpless. I fix things for a living and right now I cannot fix this. It’s super hard for me to stand back and just watch everything happen around me but I need to trust that the doctors and other hospital staff know what they are doing and that all of this is in God’s hands.
“So then it depends not on human will or exertion, but on God, who has mercy.”
Romans 9:16 ESV
Eliana had a pretty good day. She stood right up in PT again but her blood pressure dropped so they had her lay back down. It did not drop as much as yesterday and it came back up much faster. They did another X-ray to make sure she had no internal bleeding and to see if her pelvis fractures were remaining stable and all was well. They moved her from the post surgery ICU to the orthopedic floor which is a step in the right direction. She was even able to walk to the bathroom (using a walker) and she didn’t even get really dizzy. She also received a bunch of flowers and other gifts. Thank you everyone for all of your support and prayers. We love you and thank God for putting so many awesome people in our lives. Please keep Maddie, Nehe, Gasper, Judah, and Phoebe in your prayers as well as I know this is hard on them as well. Also remember to be praying for Wyatt (Eliana’s boyfriend) as he struggles through this trauma as well.
The God of all comfort August 28, 2021
Today they had Eliana Van Haley sit up and then stand. They were all ready to help her and she just stood up. She has always been pretty independent.
They had to have her lay back down right away because her blood pressure dropped though. Her BP has been pretty low since surgery so they gave her a bag of blood. It has been a little higher since but still lower than they want. An orthopedic surgeon came in and talked to us and told us she has a fracture in her sternum, a bruised lung, a fracture in the front of her pelvic bone and another fracture in the rear of her pelvis where it wraps around the tailbone. She has been having a decent amount of pain in knee where they inserted the rod.
Overall she is handling everything really well, she is super strong and just an amazing girl. She has a long road ahead for full recovery but she is on a good track.
Thank you for all the prayers and support. It has been a shower of blessings. We are so thankful for each one of you.
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort,”
2 Corinthians 1:3 ESV
Update #1 August 27, 2021
It has now been just over 24 hours since the accident. It was an extremely long, emotional and difficult day for everyone involved. My beautiful little girl is super strong and showing it every minute. She got through her surgery where they inserted a titanium rod through her femur to give it stability. She has a few fractures on her pelvis and the doctors want to try treating it with PT before resorting to surgery. She has lots of bruises and cuts on her face, arms, and right leg. Pain has been her biggest issue since the surgery. I was forced to leave her and Jessica for the night and am staying in a hotel down the street. Please keep the prayers coming and thank you all for the love and support you have given so far.
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