My daughter has been trapped in a relationship !!
We have gone through the process of getting her out but we need to come up with a retainer for the lawyer in the event it goes to trial..
She was raised in a Christian home loving God..
She homeschooled, worked her way through the Awana program receiving her Citation award and visiting Chicago to be presented, paying her way there.. Raised money to journey to Argentinia on a missions trip where she worked there with their teens..
LOVES kids and often you found her giving of herself and her time to teach them in classrooms or babysit.
Years back she found herself in a relationship she thought to be the one.. As your kids grow older you just want them to be happy..
Even growing up in the church we encouraged them to just live together and be sure, I personally just didn't see the match..
Time passed and they became engaged, set a date in November. This came after Alex's boxer was hit and killed as someone at their house let him out and wasn't watching him.. I wasn't sure on the timing but knew there was time to get it all figured out..
She was asked to remove herself from one church as she was "living in sin" and could no longer teach little ones and she left willingly although it broke her hearts to leave all her kids..
Time passed. While preparing for the wedding her choices were not ones we felt she would ever choose. The things she loved and enjoyed were not incorporated in the wedding at all.. We saw less of her but she was moving up with her company so didn't think anything of it.
Family events happened and she missed them :(
The wedding came and went. Was the most memorabel day, record snow in November.. Always a great memory because family was involoved but that day so many hurdles thrown in the path..
We contined to see signs, every minute it would seem she had to "check in", where are you, who are you with.. Even 2 years later while away in Florida with her sister and mother at Disney, "what are you doing, are there guys there?" The signs grew stronger but by this time Alex was already gone.
She had pushed so much of herself aside and turned into someone completely desperate to make this thing work..
One day when she was very tired and trying to get ready for work things excalated and he wouldn't remove himself from her presence. Forcing himself repeatedly into the room she was in. After she pushed him back to get him off her (mind you he is literally 3 times her size) he lost his balance and she put her hands on him and said leave me alone. He called the youth pastor and reported abuse, and was told by said pastor to call the cops and file a report. A grown man, abusing his wife emotionally for YEARS told to call the cops.. THIS was the "get out" sign..
Alex asked for a divorce the beginning of December. They sat in my living room and agreed to a seperation around Dec 20th. They would do it slowly as the insurance was in the husbands name attached to the job WE helped him get.
Weeks later things would blow up when the ex to be saw her with a friend.
For weeks she tried to get things moving along to protect them both financially and got no where. Her ex to be hasn't paid ONE bill in 6 weeks. She has been forced to move, and pay all the bills.
On Jan 29 he served her with divorce papers and since that point everything still frozen. .She is forced to pay all his bills and he continues to cause new ones in their accts.
We have filed the contest to the divorce and are praying for the right judges desk for it to be laid on. Cut and dry we PRAY..
If this goes to trial, she will need a lawyer. She spoke to a good one that helped her fill out the contest and we would like to keep him..
EVERY bit helpes, small or large..
We thank those who have saw the need and given.
I forgot to mention, he rushed to file first as she was going to file for an annulment.. You see it seems he forced her to marry 6 months earlier then the wedding date.. !!! Yep.. His church told him if you continue to "live in sin" we will have to ask you to remove yourself from the youth group, they worked with the teens.. Not wanting this to happen he said "lets elope" and they did.. Keeping this secret from our family, mind you he told his family, for 2 1/2 years.. A lie like that eats away at the foundation of a relationship.. No surprise to me it is ending like this.. Since he filed this is what we can share about Brandon. He didn't even care to get the date right on the decree, he put the wrong wedding date.. Yes, I guess this is what happens when you really can't remember the date due to hiding secrets.. You see world.. They were set to marry in November and he forced her to elope because his church said they needed to or they had to step out of their teaching positions, that's great telling two young adults this.. She he forced them to push the date and elope then HIDE it from the family for TWO and HALF years.. I can't imagine the turmoil this stirs in a person, SAD :( We are still working on the retainer as he's vindictive and is going after petty little things to hurt the family. We gifted them a very expensive heirloom clocks for Christmas from the family and its one of the only things he asked for along with her paying more then half of bills, mind you everything has been frozen and shes been paying everything for the past 6 weeks. Not one finger lifted by him..
Please help her to get the retainer together. In the event she doesn't need it she will be seeking out agencies that help abused women and giving it there..
Anyhow.. She needs your help friends..
If Alexandria or our family have touched your life in any way we ask you read the link and considering helping.. EVERY little bit, 5, 10 or more helps..
She has spent her teens years and young adult live teaching others kids please consider helping her put this chapter behind her and show her that not all Christians condemn do to sin. We are called to LOVE and pray not judge and shun.. ..
I thank you all for your friendship and pray things end well.. No one should have to live in fear of another, especially a shallow man who controls..